Thursday, December 3, 2009

Spanking your child in the name of the father, the son and the holy ghost

A Dutch priest got a lot of flak for preaching that it's okay to spank your child. He said it was a sign of love. To prove his point he quoted Proverbs 13:24 (New International Version): 'He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.'

Now that got everyone's atttention!

In a Dutch survey a small majority of 56% agreed with this Dutch minister: giving your kids a little slap to teach them something is alright. But all the Dutch experts disagree, and say hitting your child is a sign of powerlessness, and springs from impulsive anger. Besides: you're setting a really bad example.

Not much of a fan of all those experts telling parents what to do, and how to do it, I have to agree with them on this. Hurting your child to teach him something seems odd to me. What if your spouse hit you to make his point? Shouldn't adults be able to fight their battles using words?!

I think the bible can be read in many ways, and if you search long and hard enough, you may very possibly find someting to prove you right. Because doesn't the bible also say: 'Seek and you will find?'

What do you think ot spanking your child?


Rachel said...

I think the key word in that verse was "discipline," which is what I believe God does with us (as opposed to beating us over the head, on the head, upside the head, etc.). God doesn't spoil us, letting us do whatever we want without consequence. Likewise, that verse is stressing we should do the same. It's all about teaching your child what is right, how to behave, how to make good choices. Sometimes, that means discipline has to occur for the lesson to really take hold.

Does that mean spanking? Not necessarily.

Have I spanked my child? Yes, a few times -- a single swat. Did it get her attention? Yes. Was it really effective? Not any more so than a time-out or having a privilege removed. The fact is that any of those methods are only good if they are used to discipline, as opposed to just plain ol' "Mommy's mad" punishment.

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Tina said...

yes i see what you mean. if its adults hitting adults it would be different or even a child hitting their parent.

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